25 Things You Should Know Before Courtship!

Courting is not the same as dating. Courting is
step two on the road to marriage (with step
one being dating).
Contemporary courtship is when couples decide
to move into a deeper friendship and
relationship, with marriage being the end goal.
When courting is present, two people have
agreed together as one to intentionally and
deliberately say, “we are courting to get
married.” You can enter dating with the goal of
marriage, but marriage should not be your
initial focus; getting to know people should be
your focus. Dating and courting in healthy ways
will eliminate 85% of our pain, drama, or
problems in dealing with men or women. The
goal of dating is to discover and share
information before entering into a committed,
devoted, and long-term relationship. When
courtship is the goal, your main intent is to get
married.

Here are 25 things you need to know about
courtship:

1. Courtship is not about playing, doubt, or
uncertainty. In this stage, you are about getting
married. Only enter courtship when you are
ready to marry.

2. A courtship doesn’t have to develop into
marriage because a couple can decide they are
not for each other and simply remain friends,
which is perfectly OK.

3. Courtship will not happen many times in your
life, assuming you are approaching
relationships from a healthy perspective.
Remember, courtship is where you are
exploring a deeper relationship with marriage
being the goal. So, you will not be doing this
often if you are approaching the dating stage
with healthy boundaries.

4. Dating is a temporary place and should be a
safe place for getting to know someone.
Courting is for a loving and secure relationship.

5. Courtship is not for the spiritually and
emotionally immature.

6. s*x is not for courtship. s*x should be a gift
of marriage.

7. Courtship is for positive intentions.

8. Courtship is done with the goal of having a
future spouse.

9. You should not enter into a courtship until
you can be happy alone and not attempting to
heal emotional wounds through a relationship.

10. Courtship is a selfless relationship. If you
are a selfish person, you should not even have
a serious relationship until you are mature
enough to share life with someone without
seeking to gain something for yourself.

12. Selfishness should not drive a marriage,
nor should it be the driver of your courtship.

13. You should treat the man or woman you are
in a courtship with as your brother or sister.

14. If you can’t see yourself marrying the
person you are dating, delay the courtship. Only
enter into courtship with someone you would
consider marrying.

15. Courtship is when you should meet and
spend time with each other’s family.

16. Courtship requires the couple to be honest
and transparent so both can make a choice
about life together.

17. A successful courtship requires love, prayer,
patience, and oneness.

18. You should avoid hiding your feelings
during courtship.

19. The habits you form during your courtship
will bleed over into your marriage.

20. A healthy courtship should bring the best
out of you.

21. A healthy courtship has strong
communication.

22. Courtship is where you can become best
friends. We all know the best relationships or
marriages happen when couples are best
friends.

23. Pray for discernment concerning your
courtship and the potential for marriage.

24. Courtship will help a couple determine if
they should get married.

25. Only enter courtship with someone you
would consider marrying.